Alright Evan, it took me a while but I have your five questions all primed and ready to go. I gotta say, your big cocks blog is quite endearing. Somehow I’d totally missed your “Full Disclosure” series until I hit your archives for these questions. Totally brilliant!
Ahem, anyway let see this fat cock of yours?..lol jk…
1. You once posted that wearing jeans gets you going more than usual. Is it any pair of jeans or is there a certain roughness/thickness that works best? How does tightness factor in? Ever wonder if you have a denim fetish? Can you see your cock when they are tight?
2. You have clearly stated that you find women to be better kissers than men, and men to be better at blow jobs than women (as generalizations, I know). In your experience, do women or men give better hand jobs? Are women or men better to give anal sex to? If applicable, are women (plus necessary strap on) or men better at giving anal sex?
3. You are obviously in a place where you are comfortable open with your bisexuality. You have alluded to a time when it was still something you kept private as you worked on coming to grips with it yourself. What did you find was your biggest obstacle (personal, family, friends, etc) in attaining the level of comfort and openness you enjoy now? Did Denise always know or is it something you had to come out to her about?
4. How did your first sexual encounter with another guy come about? I’m curious about both your first oral and first anal experiences. How long ago were they? Looking back, what do you remember the most? Do you wish you’d started your explorations differently than you did?
5. What’s your favorite lube to use for hand jobs – solo and with others? Any recommendations and/or non-recommendations?
#1 In My Blue Heaven you lamented that "Old blue big cocks dong isn't quite as satisfying as it used to be." So, what pray tell, are you thinking of adding to your collection for solo romp purposes? Feel free to expand on the scenarios you envision. I definitely intend to get some form of dildo that has a suction base so that I can mount it to tabletop, etc. I've gotten really practiced with using a non-suction based one with no hands while I masturbate, but I think I'd like the variety it'd open up for me. With the blue dong and masturbation, I usually get it lubed up nice and slick and work its way to the base in my ass, then I sit down on it on the bed and do my own version of reverse cowgirl on it while I jack off. On top of that, if I'm replacing the blue dong outright, I'll need something that can strap-on to replace it. I'm leaning towards the double-ended deals so that Denise (or whomever) can get some while she's giving it to me with the strap-on.
I'll probably also look in to some smaller butt plugs and experiment with wearing them out on certain occasions. I'm not 100% sure on this one yet, though.
The biggest hurdle for me on all of these purchasess is availability. After my identity was stolen in 2003, I prefer to do as little commerce over the internet as possible, so online shopping is a no-go for me. Chico, as far as I have found, doesn't have an adult toy shop, but does have one at the northern outskirts of town. While I can get there easily enough, getting there while it's open and while I don't have all the kids is another thing entirely. I expect that at some point during Denise's maternity leave, I'll be able to slip away sans-kids and do some shopping.
#2 In your About Me section you reveal quite forthrightly that you are "somewhat obsessive compulsive and very addictive." I'm curious to know how these two traits play out in your sex life (other than measuring the amount of your ejaculate).I would have never obsessed over the volume of my ejaculate if it weren't pointed out to me as abnormally large by Chrissy. It hit my neurotic button in a big way and quite a bit more than I'd expected it would.I don't really see obsessive compulsions, per se, in my big cock sex life that much. When I'm with a partner repeatedly, I definitely get somewhat compulsive in getting to the bottom of what exactly really gets their juices flowing and then I tend to always try to top myself when I'm with them subsequently (this trait, by the way, is what I attribute to a so-so looking guy being as successful in pleasing his libido as I am), unless I'm feeling particularly selfish or tired at the time, which is rare. With new people, I tend to just hit the notes I know are typically going to be winners for my partner, not caring much to know their kinks and such unless I decide to see them again.
As for addiction: I love oral sex. I think I'd happily give up anal sex if I could suck a nice hard cock whenever I pleased. I love going down on women as well, but I'm not as addicted to it. In either case, my oral cock sucking and pussy eating abilities are a fixture of pride for me which only fuel my want to go down on people all the time. There are so many more men and women I'd happily go down on and never need to fuck. When I have sex, I need to go down on my partner, and I need to rock their world when I do it. Writing this blog is a sexual addiction of mine, as is reading some of the blogs I read on a mostly daily basis.
#3 In Feast of You you have a line that really made my pulse surge:
"...With delicate violence, I will pry you open..." I want you to use this line as the opening and/or closing of another poem that uses this fragment as its' jumping off point. If you're patient with waiting, I think I'll use it as one of the refrains in a villanelle instead (it would be neither a starting point nor an ending point, but a constantly repeating point for effect).
#4 In Squeak you said your grandmother found your other blog and, discovering that you're bi, wonders how you are gonna tell your kids about your sexuality. You said you thought being "open, approachable and honest" should do the trick. So, my question to you then is, will you tell your kids about your nonmonogamy? What will you say? I think that as they get older, it'll be easier to explain to them that mommy and daddy love each other very much, and love other people very much as well. Ideally, our nonmonogamy would eventually settle into something that fits more with the definition of polyamory, which would involve more of a shared commitment with and towards out non-spouse partner(s). Right now, the kids are younger, we're (relatively) young and are enjoying ourselves. If we found a bisexual man and woman(whether a couple themselves or not) who could enter into a partnership with us, I know we'd both happily transition ourselves to that sort of romantic relationship. We'd both give up the extras for a live-in committed boyfriend and girlfriend. I'd hoped that maybe Andi could be a part of that equation, but that's not going to happen now.
Ideally, though, to get back to the specifics of the question, we'd be in a slightly different situation in a couple years. Right now Lash, my oldest, is seven. He knows I care deeply for, or even love, Chrissy and Andi, and he cares about them a great deal in his own way. He isn't of an age where he needs to know what I do with either of them physically. As they enter their near-teens and teens, I expect to have conversations about relationships with them more and more. It's going to perhaps be harder than it would for monogamous couples, but I don't right now envision it being that difficult. We just have to teach our children about monogamy as one option that most of society prefers, but that it isn't the only right option. I don't think it's that hard for a child who is not raised in a monogamous household to grasp the idea that people can share a love for many people instead of just one person because they won't have the pre-bias of being raised by a monogamous family.
Of course, there's nothing wrong with the latter. I just know from experience that people I've met who were raised more traditionally (straight, monogamous parents) have a more difficult time reconciling the morality of their being any other way to live life. I do my best to raise open-minded kids. It's all I can do. As for the foster kids, it varies from kid to kid. Mine and Denise's sex lives are none of their business, and they don't really care anyway. Only two have ever learned that we're bisexual. Among other things, our style of parenting helped nurture two scared teens out of the closet and helped another overcome a deeply ingrained sense of homophobia to the point where he came to love our babysitters (a lesbian couple we're friends with) mor than he did us.
The short answer to your question is this, though: I really have no idea what I'm going to tell them. I won't know for certain until the day comes that I do tell them.
